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My spouse will not let me see our child while the case is pending. What can I do?

Answered by Advocate Sharan Jain··Family & Divorce Law

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You can ask the court for interim contact with your child while the main case continues. In Hindu Marriage Act proceedings, section 26 permits interim custody arrangements, with the child's welfare guiding the decision. Ask for workable details: days, times, handover arrangements and calls, rather than a vague right to visit. The court may impose safeguards where needed. A parenting dispute is not a reason to turn an agreed or ordered visit into a confrontation in front of the child.

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You do not have to wait for the final custody decision. Interim access is one of the things family courts deal with most often, and they generally deal with it quickly.

The starting principle

Contact with both parents is treated as being in the child's interest, and courts describe it as the child's right rather than the parent's. Total denial of access is exceptional and requires real justification, such as documented risk to the child. Ordinary hostility between the parents is not that justification.

  • An interim application, separate from the main petition, asking specifically for visitation
  • A proposed schedule with dates, times, duration and handover location, not a general prayer
  • Where the child is young or the relationship strained, a request for supervised or centre-based access first
  • A record of every contact attempted and refused, with dates
  • Evidence of your involvement in the child's life: school records, medical visits, messages
  • A realistic proposal. Courts grant workable schedules and refuse maximalist ones.

What to apply for

File an interlocutory application for interim custody or visitation in whichever proceeding is pending, whether that is the guardianship petition, the divorce petition, or the domestic violence case. Ask for something specific and workable:

  • Fixed days and hours, with a defined handover point
  • Video or telephone contact on stated days, which courts grant almost as a matter of course
  • A share of school holidays and named festivals
  • Where trust has broken down completely, supervised visitation at a court-annexed child access centre

Each of those pending proceedings gives the court an express power to act at once, which is why the application should be made on the first available date rather than saved for the final hearing. In a matrimonial case it is Section 26 of the Hindu Marriage Act, which lets the court pass interim orders about custody, maintenance and education of the children from time to time. In a guardianship petition it is Section 12 of the Guardians and Wards Act, 1890, which lets the court direct that the person having custody produce the child, and make orders for temporary custody and protection. In a domestic violence proceeding it is Section 21 of that Act, under which the Magistrate can grant temporary custody of the children at any stage of the hearing. All of these are interim by design and none of them decides the final custody question, which is a useful thing to say in court to a judge who is worried about pre-judging the case.

What you ask for should be modelled on a workable week rather than on what you feel you are owed. The guide on visitation rights for a non-custodial parent sets out the schedules courts commonly approve, including alternate weekends, a mid-week evening, a defined share of the summer and Dasara or Christmas holidays, and telephone or video contact on named days at a named time. Ask also for the practical clauses that stop the arrangement failing: who does the pick-up and drop, what happens if a date falls on an exam or a family function, and how a missed visit is made up.

Ask for the order to be precise
"Reasonable access" is the least enforceable phrase in family law. An order that says "every Saturday, 10am to 6pm, handover at the Family Court complex" can be enforced. An order that says the parties shall cooperate cannot. Precision at the interim stage saves years of contempt applications.

If an order is already being flouted

Go back to the same court with a compliance or execution application, with dates. Courts take repeated, documented breaches seriously, and persistent obstruction is a factor weighed against that parent at the final custody hearing.

Keep a plain contemporaneous log rather than a narrative written later: date, the time you arrived, what happened, who was present, and the message you sent afterwards. Messages sent at the time, and left unanswered, are worth far more than an affidavit composed six months on. Where breaches continue, the routes escalate from a compliance application in the same court, to execution of the order, to contempt, and in the extreme case of a child being concealed or removed, to a habeas corpus petition before the High Court of Karnataka. The guide on enforcing a custody or visitation order explains when each of those is the right step, and it is worth reading before choosing the most dramatic one, because courts respond better to a party who tried the ordinary remedy first.

Where the parent asking is not a parent

Grandparents ask this question too, usually where one parent has died or where a family has been cut off entirely after a separation. The Guardians and Wards Act does not confer a right of access on grandparents in terms, but the welfare of the child is the governing test for every order the court makes, and courts have granted structured access to grandparents where continuing that relationship was found to serve the child. The position, and how such an application is framed, is set out in the note on grandparents' visitation rights in India.

One caution

Do not respond by withholding maintenance, or by taking the child without permission. Both damage your case badly, and removing a child in defiance of an order can trigger far more serious proceedings.

Nor should you conduct the access itself as part of the litigation. Questioning the child about the other parent, recording the conversations, sending gifts calculated to compete, or arriving with a relative the child does not know, all get reported back to the court by the counsellor and all cost you more than they gain. The parent who makes the handovers uneventful is the one the judge remembers.

Sources

The law this answer relies on, so you can read it yourself.

  1. 1.Hindu Marriage Act, 1955: section 26, interim custody and child-related orders. Read the source
  2. 2.Hindu Minority and Guardianship Act, 1956: section 13, welfare. Read the source
  3. 3.Section 26, Hindu Marriage Act, 1955. Bare text of the provision. Read the source
  4. 4.Section 12, Guardians and Wards Act, 1890. Bare text of the provision. Read the source
  5. 5.Section 21, Protection of Women from Domestic Violence Act, 2005. Bare text of the provision. Read the source
  6. 6.Section 7, Family Courts Act, 1984. Bare text of the provision. Read the source

The short answer's sources were checked on 12 September 2026. Statutes and judgments can change, so check the current position before you act on anything here.

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Answered by

Advocate Sharan Jain

Advocate based in Bangalore, practising before the Karnataka High Court and District, Sessions, Consumer and Family courts. Answers public legal questions to make Indian law more accessible.

This answer is general information on Indian law as at August 1, 2026, published for public education. It is not legal advice, it does not take account of your facts, and reading it does not create an advocate-client relationship. Law changes and every case turns on its own circumstances. Please consult a qualified advocate about your own matter.

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